We Have A Choice Every Day

Life is not always easy or fair and we get thrown curveballs. It’s within each of us to overcome our emotions and decide the direction we are going to go when we’ve been knocked down.

Sometimes life sucks. You think you’ve had a rough start. Look up the following people: 

DMX

Jim Carrey

Oprah Winfrey

Christina Aguilera 

50 Cent 

They had a rough start and there’s 1000’s more like them, 1000’s more like you. Choose not to let it define you, but to remind you that you are meant for more. 

It starts with choosing to be grateful. We don’t have to be grateful for the things that hurt us. Find the things that don’t hurt, and be grateful for them.  When you start really looking for what you can be thankful for, you’ll start finding more. 

It starts with choosing to be honest with yourself. Are you settling for who and where you are because it’s the easiest choice? Fear and failure aren’t the same thing, but fear will lead to failure if you choose to let fear keep you from moving forward. 

Sometimes in life we choose to be lazy, if that’s the case be honest with yourself about it and decide if you really want to do more or if you’re actually ok with where you are. If you’re ok with where you are, then embrace your life and enjoy the day! Only you know what is right for you. 

If you want more, then start making changes. Even little changes make a difference. Nothing changes unless you do. 

It starts with choosing what type of day you will have. Decide it’s going to be a good day. Decide it will be a productive day. Not everything will be easy, but we can decide what to do when we get knocked down.  

Six Defining Rules

There is a common denominator among the successful people I know. They are in different places and doing different things, but they all say the same basic thing.

1. They don’t say they can’t
I know I write about can’t a lot. It’s a very powerful word that limits our options and opportunities before we even begin. Be truthful with yourself (you know if you are or not) and figure out if it’s I don’t want to or I don‘t know what to do or I don’t know how. Those are the real reasons, can’t is not. No one has succeeded by saying I can’t. Lou Holtz (I didn’t actually talk to him) said “Successful people will always tell you you can do something. It’s the people who have never accomplished anything who will always discourage you from trying to achieve excellent things”.

2. They aren’t lazy
This one’s hard to accept sometimes. We all have the same 24 hours in day but how we choose to use them is up to us and time doesn’t wait around until we figure it out. If I’m not willing to work for it, how badly do I really want it? Keep track of the time you spend doing nothing and you’ll likely be surprised by how much time you really do have. Work Now, Play Later.

3. They know what they want
How can we measure success if we don’t have a goal? What do you want to do, what do you want from life? It’s an important question and If you don’t know the answer there are 100’s of resources out there to help you figure it out. You can’t get there if you don’t know where “there” is.

4. They have a plan for how to get there
Knowing where we are going is important but there will be road blocks and detours along the way. If we don’t have any sort of plan those road blocks are going to feel like stop signs when in reality they are just putting us on a different path. We certainly don’t need to have every step planned out but we aren’t going to get anywhere by running in circles and hoping for the best. Make short term goals and long term goals and adjust along the way if necessary.

5. They ask for help
We aren’t designed to be alone and yet we won’t ask for help or guidance or even input we need it. Many times we are just embarrassed that we will look foolish or think asking for help makes us look weak. I’ve talked to quite a few successful people and not one of them said they got there by themselves. They listened to people they respected and sought out guidance when they weren’t sure what to do. They took opportunities they were offered because someone with more life experience said they should. The point is that we all need help sometimes.

6. They don’t quit
We don’t know what we want, so we can’t get there. We don’t know how to get there, so it can’t be done. We didn’t know it was going to take so much work, so it’s too hard. We give up before taking the next step or at the first sign of resistance. It will likely take more time and work than we expect, but the time is going to pass either way. I’d much rather look back and say “wow that took some work” than to look back and say “if I had only”. If one path doesn’t get you there, take a new one; just don’t quit.