We all have excuses for why we are unable to do something. Generally we say we can’t, but the truth is we can and just don’t want to. Certainly the laws of physics and nature apply and there are some things we truly can’t do. We can’t undo our past, we can’t become a different species and as far as I know, we can’t teleport to our favorite vacation spot instantaneously. There are some things we can’t do because we weren’t designed to do them such as fly or hold our breath indefinitely. All those things are not a choice of can or can’t.
The choices of can and can’t are more personal. I won’t be able to run a marathon tomorrow but that doesn’t mean I can’t ever run a marathon. It just means I haven’t put in the time and effort needed to run that far. I haven’t visited everywhere on my bucket list but that doesn’t mean I can’t someday. The reality is I haven’t had the focus and done the work necessary to get there yet.
We give can’t too much leverage in our decisions when the truth is sometimes “can’t” just means you have to work for it. If we stop saying I can’t then we give ourselves the freedom to make our own choices. I can say I won’t or I don’t want to but can’t isn’t a reason, it’s a decision.
I want my future to be what I’ve designed and not what I’ve limited myself to because I’m afraid or lazy. I don’t want to look back at any point and say I wish I would’ve taken the risk or done the work. I don’t ever want to regret the chances I didn’t take or the choices I didn’t make simply because I stopped myself by saying I can’t.
There is a saying that everything you want is on the other side of fear. I think everything we want badly enough is on the other side of can’t.